Episode 45May 5, 2023· 23:20
A Money Mindset Chat with Sandy Forster
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Make money blogging by changing your mindset? Yep! That's what we're jammin on!
In this episode, I'm having a complete and total fan girl moment. 😍😍😍I've been a fan of the amazing Sandy Forster for YEARS! I have 2 print copies and one digital copy of her bestselling book How to Be Wildly Wealthy Fast, and I was so stoked to get the chance to interview her for an article on money mindset for entrepreneurs for…
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What's up my bloggy friends, Famous Ashley Grant here and today I've got a serious fangirl
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conversation for you.
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I've been a huge fan of Sandy Forster for years.
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She's a money mindset mentor and the author of How to be Wildly Wealthy Fast.
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In this episode we're chatting about how to get into a wealthy mindset and make your
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wildest wealth dreams become reality.
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Let's get into it.
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Big fan of your books and all that good stuff.
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I played the millionaire game.
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I loved it so much I saved all the emails and then I re-sent them to myself again and
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played it again.
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Do you still do that?
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Yeah, I do.
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Good, good, good.
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Welcome to the show.
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I'm so excited you could be here with us today.
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For anybody who doesn't know, because I fangirl like crazy over you, but for anyone who doesn't
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know, can you tell us what it is you do?
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Sure.
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I think the number one thing I do is help women or entrepreneurs in general transform
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the way they think so they can manifest more money in their life.
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That is a great summary.
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Absolutely.
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One of the things that drew me to you is you wrote a book, Wildly Wealthy Women, and I
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found it at what felt like the perfect time.
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I was really getting serious about business and wanting to, well, become a millionaire.
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Tell us a little bit of your background, how you went from welfare to millionaire.
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Sure.
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I guess for me, I had always had this kind of entrepreneur spirit in that I hated working
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for other people.
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I felt completely trapped.
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I felt like I was in prison.
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I kind of started down that path.
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I started by sewing swim and gym wear because I live near the beach and so why not?
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That was a big flop.
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I ended up $100,000 in debt and on welfare.
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Around that time was when I also divorced my husband, so I had a three-year-old and
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a six-month-old and no money whatsoever.
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I just feel so blessed that I was able to discover the law of attraction and able to
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discover mindset and able to discover about neuroscience and able to discover about the
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quantum field.
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I just latched onto all of that because my life was so crappy at the time.
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I fell in love with how that all made me feel.
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Think about it.
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When you feel crappy thinking about how your life is, $100,000 in debt, a car that leaks
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so much that when it rained, you had a plant growing in the back, always renting, never
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being able to stay where you are, rent going up, not being able to put things on the wall,
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living that life and instead imagining this amazing life where I had my own home, a beautiful
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car, I could travel, I could do whatever I want.
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Obviously I just kept focusing on how I wanted things to be.
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That is the secret to attracting what you want in your life.
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That's the secret to whether it's in business, whether it's in life, whatever it is, but
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that's what I continue to do.
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As I did that, I began to see and experience and have opportunities come my way and literally
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I could talk for hours about it, but literally my life completely turned around and I went
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from a welfare to millionaire.
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Using obviously the internet, the internet has been just the biggest part of my journey.
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I just feel so blessed that learning the internet, applying everything I knew about law of attraction
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and quantum, the quantum field and neuroscience and putting it all together in a process in
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a way that really suited me, what happened was other people wanted to know what I was
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doing and how did I transform my life.
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Basically I created an entire business around it and that's what I do.
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I've now teached other people how to do the same.
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That's my story in a nutshell.
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That's awesome.
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Now, they say that one of the big things that I keep hearing over and over again, depending
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on who you speak to, whether it's listening to Abraham Hicks or Denise Duffield Thomas
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or all the people that talk about mindset and attraction, they say that action is the
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key secret phrase inside law of attraction.
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What do you think about that?
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Oh my gosh.
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This is the thing that most people miss.
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There are lots of teachers out there that teach law of attraction and it is all about
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meditating or affirming or visualizing and expecting everything to drop into your lap.
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A lot of people that are into law of attraction have read the book or watched the movie The
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Secret.
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It's a great movie book but it was inspired by another book that was written I think over
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120 years ago, a long time ago, by a man called Wallace Waddles, All the Signs of Getting
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Rich.
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It's written in very old fashioned language but there's one phrase in there that I absolutely
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adore and it is, by thought the thing you desire is brought to you but by action you
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receive it.
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So it's all about, yes your thinking definitely allows it to go from the quantum field into
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kind of the, it's still in the metaphysical or the non-physical, it's just sitting out
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there but when you take action it crosses from the non-physical, the metaphysical into
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the physical.
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So when you combine and this is why I'm huge on combining body minus spirit, so combining
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your thoughts, your feelings and your actions and that's what I teach everyone because when
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you combine all those, that's when the magic happens.
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It's not just in the mindset work, that's a huge part, like without the mindset you're
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not going to create the success you want but without the action you're not going to reach
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the level that you really could.
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So let's say someone comes to you and they're like you know I want to start a blog, a blogging
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based business and I just, I don't know if it's going to be successful, what would be
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the very first thing you would say to them?
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Stop saying I don't know if it's going to be successful, that's number one and instead
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mindset and practical.
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So on the practical level go out there and look at all the different blogs that are out
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there now, look at what other people are doing and don't let that scare you, don't let that
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freak you out, don't let that make you go into comparison mode and oh I'm never going
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to be that good, I don't know why I've been bothered starting, don't go down that far,
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just see what's possible, get inspired, so that's the practical side.
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But then on the mindset side then start to either create a guided visualization or some
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affirmations or just continually see yourself and feel because it's not just seeing but
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it's feeling that you are on that path to success and you are a great blogger and you
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are going to create this amazing business and when you put yourself into the mindset
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of something that you desire as if it's already happened, that's when you start to move things
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around in the quantum field and I know a lot of that sounds very kind of woo woo and out
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there but science is validating it, like you know that's why we talk now about the quantum
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field not just about the universe because science is validating that this is real and
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we have the ability to create our life the way that we want through our thoughts, through
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our energy, through our feelings.
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So yeah it's all about taking that practical action but then combining it with the mindset.
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It's interesting you say that about how science is proving it because I'm going to totally
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misquote it but I remember the story of the bottles of water and the scientist who was
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speaking different phrases into the different bottles of water and then when he looked at
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them under a microscope it actually changed the molecular level of what they saw.
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I know.
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That's kind of what you're bringing to mind.
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Absolutely and honestly the whole water and I can't remember who was the initial person
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that discovered that but I remember for decades now when my kids were little and my kids are
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now in their 30s but when they were little if anyone said anything to each other I would
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say oh you hurt my water because I taught them that we're made up of you know all these
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atoms and energy but we are so much water like there's a huge percentage of us that
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have water and the words that we speak to someone else and also the words that we speak
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to ourselves change who we are.
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So you've got to really be conscious, be mindful, be aware of what you think and what you say
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to yourself and about yourself because that can be a make or break.
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You really have to be gentle with yourself, be kind to yourself, talk to yourself and
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think about what you're doing in the same way that you would a best friend, someone
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that you really love and want to support because we can be really good at doing that but we
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can tear ourselves down and that's just not going to get you anywhere.
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You really got to love yourself as much as you love other people.
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Yes I can't agree more.
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Last year I went through a period where I was actually writing love letters to myself
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and that saying it out loud that sounds so silly to me but at the same time when I was
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reading them back it felt like I was finally hearing what needed to be said and so I'm
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kind of curious how is it like if you're in a position where you're just, I don't want
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to say down on your luck because I don't believe in luck but you're just not getting the needle
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to move forward in your business.
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What do you do to get yourself into the mindset of I believe this can actually become real
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because isn't that what manifestation really means?
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Totally, you've got to believe that it's real for it to actually come real and I can give
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you an actual real life example so probably about 20 years ago I decided, I heard about
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this thing called Life Coach and I was like oh my gosh I want to do that mainly because
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you could work from home and make money.
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I thought it was like yes I'm such an introvert, yep let me work from home, make money, that
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sounds great and plus it was in the personal development field so I thought this is to
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me.
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So I did my training to become a Life Coach and I started coaching and a few months into
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it I started to feel like what the heck am I doing?
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Like I am $100,000 in debt, I'm on welfare, my life is a mess, I have no relationship,
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I like just I'm so disorganized, I'm all over the place, who am I to be coaching people
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and I actually stepped back from that business.
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I just stepped back but what I didn't do was completely disconnect.
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So at the time I had been teaching a mindset course so instead of teaching that course
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because I just felt like such a fraud, I stepped back and I started interviewing millionaires
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and I offered these as a free series and I just interviewed millionaires about what they
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did when it comes to mindset and the metaphysical to create their success.
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So I stayed connected, I continued to be inspired even though my life wasn't so great but what
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that did for me and I just thank God that I actually did do that because that kept me
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in the loop and then after listening to and interviewing a series of millionaires I sort
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of thought to myself, you know what, I'm going to keep going because not one of them said,
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yeah, I came out of the gate and everything was great and everything was fantastic.
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They all said the same thing that they had struggles, they had challenges but they didn't
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give up so I kind of swung back around to coaching, started coaching again.
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Everything sort of took off, my coaching business took off, I ended up writing a book, then
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I created millions of dollars through a course and it's like then I ended up launching my
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own Life Coach Training Academy and I now internationally certify people to become Law
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of Attraction coaches but I look back at that time and think if I hadn't made the decision
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to keep going, to be persistent, I would have stopped.
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Like I wouldn't be where I am now, I wouldn't have created the success I had, I would have
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been back probably on welfare.
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So it really is about understanding that everybody who's created success or I would say 99.9%
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of people, they have gone through some stuff but they have persisted and they've kept going
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and I think that's the main thing.
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So persistence is the key but it's also action.
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Now I'm kind of curious though, is it just life coaches and I only ask that because I'm
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already hearing some of my listeners ask that question.
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Is it only life coaches that can go from welfare to millionaire?
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Oh gosh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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Honestly I have seen it over and over again.
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I mean I have obviously had a course that I take people through and it's definitely
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not just the coaches so I have people that are doctors, I have lawyers, I have accountants,
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I have clairvoyants, I have reiki healers, like I've got the whole gamut and the things
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that happen to people are mind-blowing and it's simply every single person, if you learn
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how to align body, mind and spirit, learn how to align your thoughts, your feelings
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and your actions, then it will work because it's universal law.
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It's not like it's going to work for you and you but hey not going to work for you there,
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it works for everybody so yeah absolutely anyone to do.
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That's really good news to hear because I mean we have more than just life coaches that
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are going to be listening and so they want to know like does this work for me even though
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I have two kids and a dog and you know my husband just left kind of thing.
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Well I was that person.
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I had two kids and no husband and you know really struggling.
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Like I was $100,000 in debt when I started and so you know there was part of me, there
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were times I have to be honest but I thought you know what maybe the universe has decided
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that I am going to always struggle like that's my future, that's how it's always going to
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be but I just didn't give up.
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I just because every time I thought about being a millionaire or having my own home
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or having a nice car or being able to travel wherever I wanted whenever I want, whenever
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I thought about that it lit me up so much from the inside out it made me feel so good
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that I knew that that must be in my future.
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I knew that that must be waiting for me.
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I just had to figure out a way to make it happen and so when I combine the mindset with
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a practical that's when it happened.
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Now how do you step aside from the but I'm lying to myself.
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Oh gosh I live that one.
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I mean think about it $100,000 in debt on welfare no skills I dropped out of high school
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for no great skill, no connections, no one who could help me and here's me saying I am
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now a debt-free millionaire.
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My mind is screaming liar liar pants are fired.
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That is so not true but I also knew that the more you said something it's like anything
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think about it when you the very first time you watch a scary movie I bet you're terrified
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but if you watched it again you're not so scared like I remember when I watched Jurassic
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Park I seriously had nightmares for night that for weeks it was just so like because
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I'm not a scary movie person but I could watch that now and not get scared at all.
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Well it's because my mind got used to it and so it's not that I thought it was real but
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I just you get used to things and you can accept them because when you're not used to
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something when it's not in your reality your mind says this could be dangerous let's keep
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it away this could like you could be killed.
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It all goes back to our Warren from caveman days you know come across an animal you don't
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know whether it's going to eat you or whatever so but so what happens is as an entrepreneur
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as someone who's trying to create success and you start thinking about having a wonderful
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business or having more money in your life part of you absolutely wants that like for
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me I absolutely wanted to be a millionaire when I was a hundred thousand dollars in debt
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absolutely wanted that but when I started to say that as I said lie lie panzalpais so
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what I actually did was I had to create an affirmation that brought in a whole lot of
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qualifiers so I honestly you think I'd remember now but what was it it was very long.
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I am now ready to accept that I'm now in the process of becoming a debt-free millionaire
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so it was very long and I said that but over the days and over the weeks I started to drop
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some of that until I was saying I'm now debt-free millionaire and even though I was a hundred
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thousand dollars in debt it felt okay so anything that's new is going to feel uncomfortable
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and depends on your level of uncomfort and as to how much your brain says this could
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kill you that you actually push it away so you've just got to do things to get used to
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it and that's why hanging with people that make really good money they always say hang
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with people who make you look bad nice to think behind what you want to do that because
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if you hang with people who make you look bad you can listen to people who make you
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look bad if you if you are connected with people who are doing way better than you like
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you're the worst one in the room then you are more inspired and more motivated and your
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more your brain your mind opens up to the possibilities but when you're the pin pin
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at your group then you know what is there to aspire to so yeah it really isn't a matter
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of you've just got to consistently be doing things to open your mind up to what's possible
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and that's why the media TV Netflix all the stuff like garbage in garbage out you've got
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to be mindful of what you allow into your life because that is creating your life.
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Yeah absolutely that's absolutely true I don't know if you're familiar with Shane and Jocelyn
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Sams they created Flip Lifestyle and basically they it's all about like how to start your
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online business essentially and one of the things that they would would constantly preach
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is to go on a media diet if you're trying to get in a certain mindset just don't listen
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to anything that is not in the exact mindset of what you're trying to do.
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Oh totally totally I haven't had a TV that's connected to the outside world for I don't
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know years and years and years so yeah.
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Well then how do you get your news?
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Well that's it I don't my daughter just told me the other day about an earthquake somewhere
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and it was like oh my gosh but that's it you think you won't know anything but honestly
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everyone tells you about everything like it's not like it's just that you don't have to
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sit there and watch it and get it fit into your brain and hear it it's better to hear
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it secondhand through someone than to be spending hours watching the news about it and just
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yeah basically.
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Giving yourself filters.
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Exactly exactly.
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I like that and you know one of the things you were saying about how you would like visualize
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that you were becoming a millionaire it kind of reminds me of how they used to talk about
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athletes that would visualize themselves playing the big game or elite runners that would run
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the race in their mind and they would hook them up to all these machines and the same
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things that were happening on the field would happen while they were just thinking about
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it.
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So if they've been using visualization for decades in all the elite training centers
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all around the world and like you said they can just imagine it but they can get the improvement
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in their style and their muscles and everything simply by I mean obviously not to the same
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extent if they were also training but they can do that and it can make such a difference
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and so if they've been using it in the elite training centers around the world for decades
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why can't we use it in our own life and why can't we train to be the most successful we
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can be.
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I love that so much I really do.
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Now I know you have some meditations and things like that on your website where can people
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find all that good stuff?
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Yes if you go to wealthywealthyfree.com and we've got some guided visualizations some
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affirmations just a few little things to get you started on that prosperity path to start
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to think differently to start to plant the seed for your own abundance.
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And what advice would you give to someone who is feeling those nerves because I mean
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you mentioned being uncomfortable how do you push through it and keep going to come out
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of the other side?
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I think one of the biggest things that I really feel that helps people is to hear of other
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people's successes because I can tell you my story and people you know might look at
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me and think oh she's different but one of the things I love to do in all my programs
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is I always get everyone's successes we always start with successes of the group and so if
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there's any way you can tap into a community or a group that loves to share their successes
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every time you hear someone else's success and this isn't just in you know a group just
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in the world in general every single time you hear of someone's success instead of going
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oh Rastell's in the holiday so lucky oh how come I never get anything like that instead
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just it's so easy it was so powerful instead just listen and imagine it's you and imagine
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the feelings you'd feel having manifested or created or had that same success or bought
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that car or being able to have that house or win this money or whatever it happens to
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be get this job you know get a raise whatever it is when you hear something amazing for
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something else just you don't have to you know close your eyes and om about it you just
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simply need to feel the feelings as if it was in you and honestly that can really start
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to change things because it's aligning you to that same success it's aligning you to
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what it is with focusing well and it's also showing you what you can achieve exactly because
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if one person can do it anyone can do it it's just a matter of putting yourself out there
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and ever hit aligning body minus spirit so why not you in fact like why not everyone
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I love that so much so I we now have the awesome free resource but where else can people find
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you online but I can find me at wildly wealthy dot com wildly wealthy dot com and at the
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moment that's about it because my Facebook account's being hacked so I don't even know
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if I'm gonna get it back oh no that's terrible but I mean hey at least you have a really
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awesome website and there's so much good stuff on there and I can attest to it I've read
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like I said I've read the books I've seen all the things I hope everybody's gonna check
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it out and then if you don't read it is it back or front how to be wild it's just yep
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absolutely it's fantastic and I have I think three copies of that at this point very good
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it's true story all right well thank you so much for being here today I'm glad that you
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could chat with me on this oh my pleasure thank you thanks so much
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well my bloggy friends I hope you enjoyed all the insights our guests had to share with
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you to get the show notes for this and all episodes go over to famous Ashley Grant dot
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